Social media is something that is around us every day. It is the modern way to connect with people, and it has changed the way how most people see and handle their relationships.
Some people find it tempting to post everything about themselves on these social media sites, especially for the personal satisfaction and validation that the “like” button brings.
Social media is a great way to interact with people that you cannot see every day, but it can also be something that can cause some issues in your relationship if you are not careful. Remember that there are things that should not be shared on social media.
Things that you should not post on social media sites:
- Keep your sex life private
There are lots of people that don’t want to hear what is going on between you and your partner. It can be tempting to talk about the great things that your significant other does in bed, you need to keep these things close to yourself, and share them with your closest friends.
- Do not post personal information about your partner
Dawn Michael, Ph.D., is a clinical sexologist and relationship expert and he says that if you want to post information that is personal about you, that is fine, but do not post anything about your partner, because that becomes an invasion of privacy. There are plenty of things that people want to keep personal, and even if it is something that you find endearing, your significant other may find it invasive.
- Refrain from telling the world about your arguments
It is always a bad idea to post your quarrels publicly. It invites people that are not involved in your argument and it can be embarrassing for the both of you. The reason for that is because you may think that it is the right choice to post it on social media sites, but when the argument is over, you might seriously regret posting that kind of information on the internet.
It is always better that you keep the arguments to yourselves and learn to work them out. Your family and friends will usually take your side, which can lead you to paint a wrong picture of your partner.
- Unapproved pictures of your partners without their permission
When you take a picture of your significant other while he/she is sleeping in a funny position, it can look cute, but keep it to yourself until you get a permission from them on whether or not you should post it. Your partner might not enjoy it to find a picture of themselves drooling on the pillow.
- Do not post mean jokes about your partner
Aaron Anderson is a family and marriage therapist and he says that you should not bring up funny things that your partner did in front of everyone that is following you on social media. This may seem like a funny and cute thing to do but your partner might not want your mother or your friends to know about it.
The thing about written messages is that you cannot translate the intent or the tone in which things are said, which can make the joke sound like an insult.
- Do not post passive-aggressive complaints about your significant other
The vague posts about your partner will make them feel bad, and it will put a serious dent in your ability to communicate. If you are having issues with your partner, the best thing that you can do is to let them know! That way, you will be able to work things out, in a way that is private and much faster. It will also keep other people out of your drama.
- Refrain from posting something that is seeking validation
We all love getting a wave of notifications, every time we post something on our social media profiles. It is a thing that can become addictive. But, you need to stop posting things that seek validation, especially in cases where it seeks validation about your partner. If you are a happy couple, then it is all that matters. You should not be worried about the approvals of other people.
- Stop posting disparaging posts about the ex-partners of your significant other
Even if the last relationship of your partner was a disaster, it is better to keep the things that you are thinking about and the trash talk to yourself. Otherwise, it just makes you insecure about yourself and your relationship.
Social media is a great place to connect and have a lot of fun. It is also a place where you can show off your relationship but in a right way. You always need to avoid doing the mistakes that we talked about in this article. Not everything and every detail of your life have to go on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.